Hello chess friends,
I don't mean to cast aspersions on the level of general politeness or amount of bots pretending to be humans around here, but is anybody else taken back by how quickly opponents disconnect after a game, without engaging in some form of conversation?
Yours Sincerely,
Michael White, FM
A lot of the time, it seems for shorter time controls that players are "done, onto the next one". A fair bit different to OTB where you discuss after a game. For the most part it is probably just a desire to play more chess rather than any intended impoliteness on their part.
@micwhite I always say hello when starting a game, and if someone wants to chat I'll welcome the opportunity to have a pleasant conversation. This happens more frequently in correspondence games than in timed games. I like to play 10+0, and that doesn't leave much time for chatting. I leave it up to my opponent to chat, and if they're a non-English speaker I'll try to use Google Translate to converse with them. If there is no chatting during the game I move on once the game is finished.
I have had some interesting conversations. One time I had an opponent from Italy who told me about a town which does a live chess reenactment every couple of years; that was a fun chat. Then another time I played a series of games with someone from Singapore who asked if I wanted to analyze the games later. Since they were correspondence games we agreed on a time to meet up and review the games with Stockfish's help. There have also been some less pleasant experiences, but I block those people and move on.
We seem to travel in different chess circles, but should we meet over the board remember to say "hi."
Too long!!you lost me yours, a human
Well, I disconnect quickly because I don't want a player to call me a cheater if I win, or a noob if I lose. I'm here to play chess, and as every online competition/game/forum, you'll always find people who just hurl insults at you. I know I can just ignore or block, but as an anxious person, it makes me feel bad nevertheless, so I just avoid it.
Also, I think a lot of players are just too invested in the game itself or their ranking and they don't wanna "lose" time by chatting. Another situation might be there's a lot of people that just don't know how to carry a conversation without it transforming in "What's your name/gender/location" and not everyone is willing to talk to strangers and/or give away personal info. I'm sure it goes beyond being polite or impolite.
Some people don't feel like being social. Chess is full of folks who are like that. I like chatting, but I see no problem if people just leave.
some people also disable chat (for various reasons; especially avoiding abuse and stuff)
edit: also lol @ "Michael White, FM" putting your FIDE title after your name like it's a PhD
MrScribbles: have you chosen the red or blue pill? Because it would be preferable to your talking!
Sometimes after some 15+10 I consider trying to open a conversation with my opponent if the game was interesting or there was a cool moment in the game, otherwise I just leave. I found myself sending a message and getting ignored, but there is people who's interested in analysis fortunately.
When playing the 4545 League here on Lichess I always analyze the game with my opponent as I found out that people there are actually very friendly and they're open to analysis, even after a loss we always talk.
If I wanted to chat, I would go to a chat room. If I wanted to play chess, I would go to a chess site. If I wanted to be polite, I would join a knitting club. FSU!
